Week Three

Topic: Comparison

Don’t You Dare Compare!

Comparison started in the Garden of Eden. There the serpent prompted Eve to compare herself to God. We know that was an audacious, costly, and shall we say, world changing decision. That thought led to a decision which altered human history in every facet imaginable. That thought and subsequent decision led to the entrance of sin, death, and separation from God.

Likewise our comparisons of our children to others can be life changing. Some may argue for friendly competition but that nevertheless is a trap of comparison. I’m not arguing about or against motivating our children. I am arguing against comparison where a child feels the pressure to perform like another child in order to receive praise or gain approval.

Comparisons often are linked to some form of insecurity. One therefore needs to be like another so as not to ————- {be left out, be left behind, miss an opportunity, be a loser (you fill in the blank)}.

Our comparisons of our children furthermore, can leave us feeling frustrated and as insufficient Mamas. My children each learned to sleep through the night, crawled, walked, and talked at different times. They each have different talents and mostly likely will grow up to serve in different careers. It can be quite freeing for both a Mama and a child when we journey with and minister to each of our children exactly where they are.

God never wants us to compare. Not with Him since He alone is God, the great I AM. He also doesn’t want us to compare ourselves with others, our children with other children. Psalms 139: 13-18 is a great reminder of how unique we are. Comparing ourselves, or for us Mamas, our children to other children is futile. Much like comparing apples to bananas. Sure they both are fruits. Other comparisons of these two fruits however, becomes a stretch and somewhat nonsensical. An unaltered banana would never be as crunchy as an apple. Nor was an apple designed to look, feel, taste, or serve in the same capacity as a banana. They were created as distinct fruits for a reason.

Our children individually are unique to God. God has endowed each of our children with unique gifts and talents. He entrusted them to us to train/mold/lead in a particular way (Proverbs 22:6). Remember you are training your child not only to be a productive member of our society but more importantly, to be a member of the body of Christ. Paul reminds us that each member of the body has a special function (Romans 12: 4-5). Each member has a unique gift (1 Corinthians 12: 28). God took great care when he created your child and assigned them a unique gift to be utilized in His kingdom. Even as you are teaching your children, remember they are likely to learn differently and have individual affinities. And lest we determine that one child’s gift/talent is better than another, let’s remember that each gift has a specific purpose.

I hope these Scriptures will provide you with a new and/or encouraging perspective of your children and this journey God has placed you on with them.

Sunday-Day 15

Meditation: “Just as our bodies have many parts and each part has a special function, so it is with Christ’s body. We are many parts of one body, and we all belong to each other. In his grace, God has given us different gifts for doing certain things well. So if God has given you the ability to prophesy, speak out with as much faith as God has given you. If your gift is serving others, serve them well. If you are a teacher, teach well. If your gift is to encourage others, be encouraging. If it is giving, give generously. If God has given you leadership ability, take the responsibility seriously. And if you have a gift for showing kindness to others, do it gladly.”
‭‭Romans‬ ‭12:4-8‬ ‭NLT‬‬‬‬‬‬‬‬‬‬

Reflection: What is the gift with which God has blessed your child?

Write it down: How are you teaching, nurturing, and encouraging your child in their gifting?

Be Social: Tag a girlfriend or fellow homeschooling Mama. Use the hashtags #uniquegifts #homeschoolingmama #royallyrelational

Monday-Day 16

Meditation: “But our bodies have many parts, and God has put each part just where he wants it. How strange a body would be if it had only one part! Yes, there are many parts, but only one body. The eye can never say to the hand, “I don’t need you.” The head can’t say to the feet, “I don’t need you.” In fact, some parts of the body that seem weakest and least important are actually the most necessary.”
‭‭1 Corinthians‬ ‭12:18-22‬ ‭NLT‬‬‬‬‬‬‬‬‬‬‬‬‬‬

Reflection: What is your function in the body of Christ?

Write it down: How will you utilize your function as you mold your children?

Be Social: Tag a girlfriend or fellow homeschooling Mama. Use the hashtags #manyparts #homeschoolingmama #royallyrelational

Tuesday-Day 17

Meditation: “For I know the plans I have for you,” says the Lord. “They are plans for good and not for disaster, to give you a future and a hope.”
‭‭Jeremiah‬ ‭29:11‬ ‭NLT‬‬‬‬‬‬‬‬‬‬‬‬‬‬

Reflection: Have you prayerfully considered God’s plans for your children?

Write it down: How have you responded?

Be Social: Tag a girlfriend or fellow homeschooling Mama. Use the hashtags #Jeremeiah29:11 #Hisplans #homeschoolingmama #royallyrelational

Wednesday-Day 18

Meditation: “You made all the delicate, inner parts of my body and knit me together in my mother’s womb. Thank you for making me so wonderfully complex! Your workmanship is marvelous—how well I know it.”
Psalms‬ ‭139:13-14‬‬‬‬

Reflection: Reflect on your first year of being a Mama to your child or each of your individual children.

Write it down: In what ways has your child changed from that first year till now?

Be Social: Tag a girlfriend or fellow homeschooling Mama. Use the hashtags #God’sWorkmanship #homeschoolingmama #royallyrelational

Thursday-Day 19

Meditation: “You watched me as I was being formed in utter seclusion, as I was woven together in the dark of the womb. You saw me before I was born. Every day of my life was recorded in your book. Every moment was laid out before a single day had passed.”
Psalm 139: 15-16

Reflection: Reflect on your day yesterday.

Write it down: What is one moment from your day yesterday where you recognized God at work in your life? In your child’s life?

Be Social: Tag a girlfriend or fellow homeschooling Mama. Use the hashtags #Psalm139 #BeforeIwasborn #homeschoolingmama #royallyrelational

Friday-Day 20

Meditation: “How precious are your thoughts about me, O God. They cannot be numbered! I can’t even count them; they outnumber the grains of sand! And when I wake up, you are still with me!”
Psalms‬ ‭139:17-18‬ ‭NLT‬‬‬‬‬‬‬‬‬‬‬‬‬‬‬‬‬‬‬‬‬‬‬‬‬‬‬‬‬‬‬‬‬‬‬‬‬‬‬‬‬‬‬‬‬‬‬‬‬‬‬‬‬‬‬‬‬‬‬‬‬‬‬‬‬‬‬‬‬‬‬‬‬‬‬‬‬‬‬‬‬‬‬‬‬‬‬‬‬‬‬‬‬‬‬‬‬‬

Reflection: Consider your experiences of the presence of God.

Write it down: How will your children know God is with you? How do you know God is with your children?

Be Social: Tag a girlfriend or fellow homeschooling Mama. Use the hashtags #preciousthoughts #homeschoolingmama #royallyrelational

Saturday-Day 21

Meditation: “For we are God’s masterpiece. He has created us anew in Christ Jesus, so we can do the good things he planned for us long ago.”
‭‭Ephesians‬ ‭2:10‬ ‭NLT‬‬‬‬‬‬‬‬‬‬

Reflection: Think about a “typical” day with your children.

Write it down: What “good things” have you engaged in with your children recently?

Be Social: Tag a girlfriend or fellow homeschooling Mama. Use the hashtags #masterpiece #homeschoolingmama #royallyrelational


Week Four